So, anyone who knows me knows I hate disappointing people. I'd rather sacrifice anything I'm doing to help someone I care about. But lately, that means sacrificing a lot of my happiness... and I realized there's just one question:
What do I owe people?
The real answer is nothing. I could live my life in solitude and do nothing for anyone. Simple right? Maybe for some people, but socializing is high on my pyramide of needs. Sometimes even thinking makes me lonely. So I do nice things for people I like and care about so that I get to socialize and have lots of friends. I thrive on this - I love doing nice things for people I love.
But what do I owe people I don't want to socialize with? Currently I do nice things for them anyway, even if I don't think I care about them, because 1) its easier to keep the peace and 2) I hate disappointing anyone. But man... it's starting to wear on me.
If I have the ability to help someone, is it my responsibility to do so? I'm getting tired and annoyed helping people that just don't appreciate it...
What about people I'm tied to in life, but don't want to associate myself with? Do I owe these people anything because of our ties?
Thursday, March 19, 2009
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1 comments:
my advice to you...is your advice to me:
YOUR happiness comes first. do what makes YOU happy.
selfish? maybe when that's taken too literally. of course its nice to help others. but YOU should be first on your list missy.
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